hi, hello, & welcome to the new blog my studies!!! 🦋 i’ve been wanting to change the way i do this blog for a while, mostly because i realized i don’t really want it to be a traditional blog. i want it to feel more like a little online magazine that happens to be written by me. somewhere between a personal blog, a collection of things i find interesting, and the kind of magazine you pick up at a coffee shop (and end up reading it from cover to cover). ☕️ soooo, welcome to th

at some point, maybe in middle school, maybe even younger, you had an idea of who you were going to be. not necessarily a specific job or a mapped-out life plan, but a feeling. a sense of the kind of person you wanted to grow into. brave, maybe. or creative. deeply kind. someone who mattered in a way that felt important and specific to you at the time, even if you couldn't have fully articulated it then. how close are you to that person now? and, maybe more importantly, are y

strip away the grades, the resume, the things you've built and earned and proven. take away the titles, the accolades, the milestones you've been collecting since you were old enough to understand that achievement meant something. what's left? who are you, actually, underneath all of that? it's an uncomfortable question. for a lot of us, it's uncomfortable precisely because we don't immediately know the answer. and that says something worth paying attention to. we live in a c

there's a version of you that took the other job. that stayed in the city. that said yes instead of no, or no instead of yes, at some pivotal tuesday you barely remember now. that version of you exists somewhere in the architecture of possibility, living out the consequences of a door you didn't walk through. you'll never meet that person. but sometimes you feel that person. we don't talk enough about grief for the lives we didn't choose. it's a strange kind of loss because n

curiosity doesn't get enough credit when we talk about love. we talk about loyalty, sacrifice, physical touch, words of affirmation. we have entire frameworks and languages built around what love looks like. but no one really stops to say: the most radical thing you can do for someone is stay genuinely curious about them. and i think that's the whole thing, actually. think about what it means to be curious about someone. not curious in a surface-level, "so what do you do for

every group chat has rules. no one ever writes them down, but everyone feels them. who can double text. who cannot. who sends voice memos. who never does. who reacts with emojis instead of replying. who disappears for hours and comes back like nothing happened. none of this is random. group chats are tiny ecosystems. they develop norms based on personalities, history, and unspoken power dynamics. once those norms exist, breaking them feels awkward, even if you cannot explain

you wake up, open your phone, and suddenly everyone is obsessed with something you swear did not exist yesterday. a word. a sound. a style. a joke. by the time you ask where it came from, it is already on its way out. this is not just you falling behind. trends genuinely move faster than our ability to process them. the internet has collapsed time. what used to take years to become mainstream now takes days, sometimes hours. a trend can be born in one niche corner of the inte

learning doesn’t have to be serious, stiff, or stressful. in fact, some of the most lasting lessons, whether that's in creativity, problem-solving, or personal growth, come when we allow curiosity, play, and experimentation to lead the way. playful learning isn’t just for kids; it’s a mindset that adults can benefit from just as much, if not more. think about how kids explore the world. they ask questions endlessly, experiment without fear of failure, and learn through doing

there’s something about small, fleeting moments that catch us off guard, like seeing sunlight hit a leaf just right, hearing a stranger’s laugh that’s contagious, noticing the tiny details in a painting or a street corner. they make us pause and feel something unexpected. these micro-moments of wonder might be brief, almost insignificant in the grand scheme of life, but they hit us in ways that linger far longer than we expect. we crave these moments because they break the mo

at first glance, planners and journals might seem like simple organization tools, giving you a place to jot down tasks, appointments, or reminders. but anyone who’s spent time with a thoughtfully designed planner or notebook knows they’re far more than that. they’re mirrors, coaches, and safe spaces for your mind, helping you navigate not just your schedule, but your thoughts, goals, and even emotions. think about what happens when you write things down. a simple list of task

there’s something about nostalgia that grabs you without asking permission. a song from middle school, the smell of crayons, an old tv show theme song, or even the taste of a snack from your childhood, it hits, and suddenly you’re transported. it’s warm, familiar, and comforting, but it’s also addictive in a way that’s surprisingly powerful. nostalgia is a force that shapes how we think, feel, and even act. the first thing to understand is why nostalgia feels so good. when we

there’s something almost thrilling about disappearing online. not completely, of course, you’re not vanishing into thin air LOL. but taking a deliberate step back from social media, apps, notifications, and constant scrolling. it’s intentional, quiet, and strangely liberating, like slipping out of a crowded room without anyone noticing. and in a world where our attention is constantly mined, this kind of digital retreat feels almost rebellious. the first thing you notice when

have you ever noticed how much your music, playlists, or even background apps say about you without you saying a word? it’s wild to think that the tunes you put on repeat, the white noise you play while studying, or the aesthetic vibes of a meditation app can reveal so much about your moods, habits, and personality. these small choices might seem purely functional, but they’re quietly expressive, and they say more than we often realize. let’s start with playlists. what we lis

have you ever loved a show, a hobby, or even a snack a little too much and felt… guilty about it? like somehow, enjoying it too much makes it “wrong” or “over the top”? it’s a strange feeling, and almost everyone experiences it at some point. why do we attach guilt to pleasure, especially when the thing bringing us joy is harmless? first, let’s break down what’s happening. we live in a culture that often equates moderation with virtue. doing things in balance is praised, whil

side hustles are everywhere these days. from handmade jewelry sold on Etsy, to freelance graphic design, to starting a small online store or a podcast, everyone seems to have one. at first glance, it might seem like it’s all about money, skill-building, or career flexibility, but there’s a deeper reason we’re drawn to them. side hustles often act as extensions of ourselves, little statements of identity in a world that constantly asks, “who are you?” think about it: when you

to me, there’s something almost magical about a morning that starts intentionally. it doesn’t have to be elaborate or Pinterest-level aesthetic, it’s as simple as making your bed, brewing your favorite tea, or taking a minute to stretch before the day really begins. these small rituals, tiny acts that feel almost mundane, have an outsized effect on our mood, focus, and sense of calm. the beauty of morning rituals is that they signal something to your brain. when you do the sa

digital minimalism started as a personal choice for some people. it gave people a way to feel calmer, more focused, and less addicted to screens. it was about deleting apps you didn’t need, unfollowing accounts that stressed you out, and reclaiming your attention from endless notifications. at first, it was for inner peace, serving as a simple lifestyle hack to reduce overwhelm. but somewhere along the way, digital minimalism became more than just a habit. it became a symbol,

have you ever bought something just because it looked good? or picked a restaurant because the menu photos made your mouth water before you even glanced at reviews? it’s wild how much we let appearances influence our choices, even when logic or facts are staring us in the face. we like to think we’re rational humans, making decisions based on evidence, research, and reason. however, looks matter. a lot. this isn’t just about things being aesthetically pleasing. it’s deeper th

there’s something magical about picking up a book you loved as a kid. you might think you’re just revisiting a story, but it’s more than that. it’s a time machine, a little portal back to the version of yourself who stayed up late reading under the covers with a flashlight, who imagined whole worlds with every turn of a page, and who believed, with perfect certainty, in the magic of stories. the first thing that hits you when you reopen one of these old favorites is how famil

there’s something kind of wild about advice from strangers. it sounds counterintuitive at first because why would someone who doesn’t know you, your history, your family drama, or your favorite comfort food even have an opinion worth listening to? but the more you think about it, the more it makes sense. strangers give advice differently. it’s cleaner, simpler, and somehow more… honest. think about it. when you talk to a friend or a family member, advice is wrapped in a milli